Fortune Cookie Debrief

Sample questions

APPRECIATING SELF and OTHERS

1. Who generally appreciated yourself and some of the others in the group?
2. Did you express your appreciation to yourself and others?  If so, how did you do this?  (consider verbal and nonverbal ways)
3. Would anyone want to appreciate some of the members of the group now?  If so, do it now.

ASKING FOR WHAT YOU WANT

1. Did you ask for all you wanted from the group members?  Explain.
2. How do you usually feel when you ask for what you want and get refused or rejected?    Did that happen today?

COMMUNICATING EFFECTIVELY

1. Can anyone give an example of when you thought you communicated effectively with someone else in the group?  (consider verbal and nonverbal communication)
2. What went wrong in the communication attempt?

COOPERATING

1. Are there any problems associated with cooperation?
2. How did cooperative behavior lead to successfully completing the initiative task?
3. How can you cooperate in other areas of your life?

DEFERRING JUDGEMENT OF OTHERS

1. Is it difficult for you to avoid judging others?  Explain.
2. What were some advantages to you by not judging others?
3. What were some advantages to others by you not judging them?

EXPRESSING APPROPRIATE FEELINGS

1. Can you name a feeling you had at any point in completing the initiative?  (consider--mad, glad, sad, or scared)   Where in your body did you feel it most?
2. What feelings were expressed nonverbally in the group?

LEADING OTHERS

1. Is it easier to take a leadership role in other situations or with different group members?  Explain.
2. Did anyone try to lead the group, but felt they were unsuccessful?  What were some possible reasons for this?  How did it feel to be disregarded?

LIKING YOURSELF

1. Did anyone criticize or put themselves down at any time?
2. What are some abilities you have that you didn't use in completing the initiative?  Why didn't you use them?

LISTENING

1. Who made suggestions for completing the initiative task?
2. Were all of these suggestions heard?  Explain

MAKING GROUP DECISIONS

1. Do you respond in similar ways in other groups?
2. What did you like about how the group made decisions?  What didn't you like?

RESPECTING HUMAN COMMONALITIES

1. How are you like some of the others in the group?
2. Were these commonalities a help to the group in completing their task?  Explain.

RESPECTING HUMAN DIFFERENCES

1. What would this group be like if there were very few differences in people?  How would you feel if this were so?
2. Do you usually view group differences as good, bad, or neither?

TRUSTING THE GROUP

1. Can you give examples of when you trusted someone in the group?  Explain.
2. Is it easier to trust some people and not others?  Explain.
3. On a scale from 1-10, rate how much trust you have in the group as a whole.  Can you explain your rating?